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Assistance: Where To Go For Help
BDSM Resources and Information
Beyond Fifty Shades of Grey
Commentary About Fifty Shades of Grey
Dating Sites
Finding Kink Events
Negotiation Checklists
Nonfiction Books
On Male Privilege
Protecting Your Privacy
Writer/Reader Resources Links
Assistance: Where To Go For Help
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists
Search for an AASECT Certified sexuality educator, sexuality counselor, or sex therapist in your area.
Kink Aware Professionals
Referrals to psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who are knowledgeable about, and sensitive to, diverse expressions of sexuality.
Domestic Violence Project
National and international network developed by the National Leather Association -- International to provide information, appropriate referrals, resources, and safe shelters for those who have been subjected to abusive and violent BDSM relationships
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Without My Consent
Tools to Fight Online Harrasment
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BDSM Resources and Information
BDSM Terms
glossary of BDSM and kink-related terms was
BDSM: Safer Kinky Sex
practical guidelines on prevention of hepatitis, MRSA, HIV, and other STIs within BDSM play
BDSM Wiki
best practices, medical information, risk assessment, and technical data
A Beginner's Guide to BDSM Munches
By Jay Wiseman, JD
Fetlife
Social Media for Kinksters (Warning: site repeatedly hacked, do not post any identifying photos/information)
Fifty Shades Of Legal Liability -- Legal Risks Of Kinky Sex
The characters in Fifty Shades of Grey may be fictional, but the legal risks of kinky sex are not.
Fifty Shades of What? The Medical Science of Kink
recent medical research papers have identified benefits in people who engage in alternative sexual behaviors
Kink is about Connection
If you're not in love, don't do the scene
The Old Guard: Classical Leather Culture Revisited
Old Guard -- aka Gay Men's Leather Culture -- is usually talked about by people who weren’t part of it
Old Guard vs. Reality
It's time we stop, once and for all, the ridiculous notion that we should be patterning our identities, relationships and social interactions based on the Old Guard myth
To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a Move
communicating enthusiastic consent
What's a 'Munch'?
caryl's FAQ
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Beyond Fifty Shades of Grey
Free: Beyond 50: An Erotics Sampler
edited by D. L. King
Beyond 50 Shades of Grey
Information on a wealth of BDSM-themed literature and media: from sensual romances to gritty thrillers; from spell-binding fantasy to darkly passionate suspense and horror; from dramatic historical adventures to edgy erotica -- and more.
The Struck by Lightning series
Billionaire BDSM romance series by Cecilia Tan
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Commentary About Fifty Shades of Grey
The series was written -- by someone with no experience, knowledge, or research
about BDSM -- as fan fiction for books/films that glorify abusive stalking. A few of the many, many articles written by those who have more knowledge/experience:
BDSM, Consumerism and The Care of Self
Dakota Johnson Reveals She Suffered Numerous Injuries While Shooting
Fifty Abusive Moments in Fifty Shades of Grey
'Fifty Shades of F*cked Up': The Film on its Own Terms
'Fifty Shades of Grey': A Dominatrix's View
I saw 50 Shades of Grey and I was appalled -- but not for the reasons you think
I Tried All the Sex From 'Fifty Shades of Grey' in 1 Weekend
Rosie reviews Fifty Shades of Grey
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Dating Sites
(listing ≠ recommendation)
Collarspace
CougarLife
FemDom Society
Kink Culture
She Makes the Rules
Society 31
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Finding Kink Events
BDSM Events Page
Anual BDSM/Fetish Events
Leatherati
Events in North America, Europe, Australia
Where to Find Organizations in Your Area
everything caryl can find in your area
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Negotiation Checklists
Wikiphilia Checklist
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Nonfiction Books
(listing ≠ recommendation)
At Her Feet: Powering Your Femdom Relationship
by TammyJo Eckhart and Fox
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission
by Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacob
The Ethical Slut
by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt
The Loving Dominant
by John and Libby Warren
The Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance
by Jack Rinella
The New Bottoming Book
by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton
The New Topping Book
by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton
Playing Well with Others
by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns
by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon
SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude--Principles, Skills and Tools
by Guy Baldwin
SM101
by Jay Wiseman
When Someone You Love is Kinky
by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt
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On Male Privilege
FAQ: What is male privilege?
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Protecting Your Privacy
EFF's Top 12 Ways to Protect Your Online Privacy
The advice is still good, but many of the specific recommendations are out of date. Substitute "Firefox" for references to Netscape and avoid using Java, I.E., and Chrome entirely.
Your Basic Online Privacy
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Writer/Reader Resources Links
Erotic Authors Association
ERWA Erotica Authors Resources
GLBT Bookshelf
Goodreads
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
Kristine Kathryn Rusch
Dean Wesley Smith
Story Fix
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